By Thomas Perille MD
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July 26, 2025
It seems that we live in an era of Rorschach tests. You only have to say one word and you will create a predictable and visceral response depending on where you lie in the political spectrum. Migrants. Gender. Ukraine. Gaza. Guns. And one of the most enduring triggers and divisive words is abortion. How do we navigate in a world characterized by such extreme polarization and tribal political organization? Is abandoning efforts to engage with those who possess a different worldview the most logical and realistic path? Should those who hold the majority view simply squash those with a dissenting view? Or is there something fundamentally lost in society when we relinquish our innate human desire for solidarity with those in our community -even when they may harbor radically different perspectives. Can a democracy survive such division? Is there a way to model a different approach? Addressing abortion in a constructive way can be the prototype for a host of other heated, if less contentious issues. It seems the first principle of engagement should be to assume that those with an opposing view aren’t ignorant or evil but rather sincere and motivated by a desire to make the world a better place. Second, we need to look beyond the propaganda on both sides of an issue, to create space for dialogue. It isn’t necessary to agree on the veracity of all the published information pertaining to the topic, but we should be prepared to establish a set of underlying moral principles/values that best reflect the differing views. Lastly, it is important to acknowledge the very real differences in our beliefs but focus on finding common and overlapping interests. It is never necessary to abandon firmly held moral principles to forge policy and programs that appeal to those with opposing views. And establishing a relationship with someone you adamantly disagree with doesn’t mean you subscribe to moral relativism. For abortion, we first must acknowledge that many of those with the most emotional responses to the issue have either had an abortion or their sexual partner had an abortion. Some will be asserting the righteousness of their abortion decision and others may be reacting with guilt/shame to the memory of their abortion. If we aren’t sensitive to these emotions, it will be hard to move towards a productive dialogue. And we should recognize that both prolife and prochoice adherents deeply care for the health/life of women. The prolife movement bends the truth to advance their cause. You often hear prolife advocates state, “that abortion is never medically necessary”. This is more a semantic error than a factual error. For many, induced abortion is so morally abhorrent that they prefer to use the term “separation” or “premature delivery’ in the case of a medically indicated abortion. A medically indicated abortion refers to the previable termination of a pregnancy to prevent maternal organ damage or preserve the life of the mother with the unintended, but foreseeable, death of the developing human embryo or fetus. (In contrast, in an elective induced abortion, the expressed intent is to end the pregnancy by killing the embryo/fetus with the manner of fetal death and the gestational age being immaterial.) Medically indicated abortions are rare. Abortion to preserve the life or prevent serious bodily injury represents approximately 0.05% of abortions based on a high-quality registry study from the UK where reasons for abortions are tracked. (The US does not track indications for abortion). “Therapeutic abortions” were part of medical reality long before Roe was decided in 1973 and were incorporated into the medical repertoire of every OB/GYN for decades, including the prolife clinician. Prochoice advocates also sow confusion to promote their cause. They propagate the myth that “nobody can definitively know when human life begins”. The fact that a new human life begins at fertilization dates back to the first scientific observation of sperm and egg fusion in 1876 by Oscar Hertwig. To argue that a human life begins at birth is an antiquated religious view not based on science or biological expertise. What prochoice adherents may mean is that a human being doesn’t have value, dignity, or legal rights till they are born – but that is an entirely different argument. They may believe that the moral significance of fetal life is not biologically determined, but socially or philosophically constructed. Nonetheless, they need to acknowledge that assigning differential value to distinct groups of human beings based on immutable characteristics such as age, sex, sexual orientation, physical/mental abilities, race, or ethnicity has been a fraught topic throughout human history. Those who promote abortion as a moral response to an unexpected pregnancy sometimes obscure the humanity of the developing embryo and fetus with dehumanizing language. Examples include describing a sophisticated human embryo as a “cluster of cells” in the New York Times or a second trimester fetus as “pregnancy tissue“ on the Rocky Mountain Planned Parenthood webpage. This stands in contrast to the language that is commonly used by every expectant mother and her obstetrician who routinely describes the “wanted” embryo/fetus as a “baby”. For the purposes of engagement, abortion proponents and opponents should avoid using loaded language that is intended to manipulate rather than clarify. The last domain of obfuscation pertains to the conflation of miscarriage and stillbirths with induced abortion. Miscarriages and abortion may require the use of the same medications and surgical procedures but that is where the similarity ends. In miscarriage or “spontaneous abortion”, the embryo and fetus suffer a tragic, but natural, death. A medical or surgical procedure may be necessary to remove any remaining fetal or placental remains to prevent infectious and hemorrhagic complications. Pregnancy has already terminated naturally; thus, this is not an induced abortion. In elective induced abortion, a medical or surgical procedure is performed to terminate the pregnancy explicitly by killing the embryo or fetus. Laws that restrict elective induced abortion have no medical or legal bearing on the treatment of miscarriage. Medical malpractice rather than anti-abortion laws drives much of what the mainstream media cites as evidence to the contrary. The primary reason that any doubt exists in the minds of inexperienced clinicians is the misdirection by professional medical abortion advocates such as ACOG (American Association of Obstetricians and Gynecologists). After peeling away the spin/propaganda from either side of the abortion debate, you have a much simpler discussion: when is it permissible to kill a dependent human being to respect a woman’s bodily autonomy and free her from the physical, social, emotional, and economic demands of pregnancy and childcare. Prolife advocates need to aggressively address the needs of the woman and not focus exclusively on the fetus. Prochoice advocates need to explicitly address the biological reality and moral relevance of the developing human and not focus exclusively on the woman. Framed this way, the potential for finding common ground dramatically increases. Prolife advocates can agree that there is real, albeit very rare, medical indications for abortion. They can work with prochoice advocates to ensure that all medical professionals address the needs of both of their patients while working vigorously to save the life of the mother when pregnancy complications would jeopardize the lives of both. It is possible to imagine that an agreement to limit late abortion on healthy women carrying healthy fetuses’ post-viability could be achieved. Restrictions of abortion techniques which are especially inhumane, such as D&E, which involves the systematic dismemberment of a pain capable fetus, may be another area of agreement. There shouldn’t be controversy making high risk second and third trimester abortions safer through state licensing, regulation, and inspection of late abortion facilities since the health/safety of women drive both perspectives. Prochoice advocates should support medical professionals who have conscientious objections to participating in abortion since elective induced abortion involves intentionally taking the life of another human being. This is not a trivial or arbitrary moral decision. It reflects their sincere commitment to foundational secular humanist or religious principles. Prochoice advocates who believe that abortion must be a free choice, should find common cause with prolife advocates to prevent the social/economic coercion that commonly drives an abortion decision. Both could embrace a parallel interest in reducing the asymmetrical burden of human reproduction. This may be accomplished through a variety of initiatives. Joint efforts to improve accommodations for pregnant women in education and the workforce would become a major priority. Supporting/expanding paid family leave programs and subsidized daycare would be another. Publicizing government/private non-profit programs that provide counseling and material support to pregnant women and their families – including Pregnancy Resource Centers (PRCs) – would be a third. Ameliorating the financial burden of pregnancy that disproportionately falls on women would need to be addressed. Expanding male partner prenatal/postnatal financial support is one tool. Making birth (prenatal, birthing services, and post-partum care) free through a combination of government/private insurance programs is essential. Men should not be able to avoid the financial burden of human reproduction by avoiding child support or purchasing “skinny” health insurance without pregnancy coverage. Conservative prolife legislators should eschew their aversion to insurance mandates to serve a greater goal. It is a matter of reproductive equity. PRCs offer millions of dollars of uncompensated assistance to pregnant women and their families. However, those expressing prolife beliefs undermine their dedication to women and their preborn children when they refuse to acknowledge the role of government in setting policies and supporting programs that address their additional needs. There are already recent examples of legislative efforts that demonstrate how prolife and prochoice advocates can work together for the common good without compromising their sincerely held beliefs regarding abortion. At the federal level, Senators Hyde-Smith (R), Kaine (D), Hawley (R), and Gillibrand (D) recently introduced the “Supporting Healthy Moms and Babies Act” which would make birth free. In Colorado, Senator Jeff Bridges (D) sponsored SB25-144 which extended family leave for mothers of very premature babies that require prolonged neonatal intensive care. He also sponsored SB25-118 which took a small slice out of the prenatal care cost burden in Colorado. Unfortunately, there are many more examples where this kind of dialogue is considered too politically risky. A very sad example was the recent defeat of a bill (HB25-1252) to allow the Colorado Department of Public Health and Environment (CDPHE) to regulate second and third trimester abortion facilities using evidence-based best practices– as they do with other medical facilities with lower or similar risks. It was killed in the House Health and Human Services Committee along tribal ideological lines. It is past time to bridge the ideological and political divide. Let partisans on either side of a hotly contested issue commit publicly to constructive engagement. No longer should we treat people with opposing views as “enemies”. Collaboration should be the norm in our communities and state/federal legislatures rather than the exception. When you seek to identify core values, you can invariably find overlapping interests. There isn’t an issue that doesn’t lend itself to this approach. This is good for our communities, good for our nation, and good for democracy writ large. Ultimately, it may even move the culture towards the morally correct position.